1. Rigidly maintain that your cultural and religious viewpoints are always right, and place them front and center over your partner's, even when you do not have all the facts!

2. Never apologize, even when you are proven wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt! The corollary to this point: never forgive, never forget!

3. Be relentless in rubbing your religious viewpoints in when you are proven right (and even when you are proven wrong)!

4. Dogmatically maintain that you know your partner's religious and spiritual motives better than they do!

5. Assume that your partner is a mind reader and that they should automatically understand all your needs and should respond appropriately without being asked!

6. Totally ignore your partner's spiritual needs and insist on satisfying your own!

7. Operate on the assumption that your partner's spiritual needs are identical to yours!

8. Analyze the "deep" psychological meanings of your partner's spiritual needs and take them very personally!

9. Do not ever admit hurt, but go immediately to the expression of anger!

10. Identify your partner's character flaws and family secrets and use them to make a point when logic fails!

11. Use guilt to manipulate, to get your own way or to punish!

12. Become proficient at catching your partner in failure, but do not ever comment if you catch them succeeding!

13. Be intolerant, don't compromise, maintain your position, yield no ground and push your argument until your partner walks out the door... then follow the coward!

14. Do not let go of the past, rehashing your version of it as often as possible!

15. If you are a clinger, then cling very, very tightly, claiming that you will surly die if you are ignored!

16. If you are not a clinger, then stay emotionally and physically distant, and show no signs that you really care for your partner!

17. Make promises, but never keep them!

18. Be flippant and facetious all the time so that your partner never knows when you're being serious!

19. Always make excuses for your bad habits!

20. Insist that what you have to say is always more important that what your partner is saying, so interrupt!

21. Pretend that you understand what you partner has said, even if you have no idea of the point that was being made!

22. Act as though you do none of the above and it is your partner who must make all the changes!